So last night Shiloh and I decided to go on a date because I just got back from Los Angeles and we hadn’t spent one on one time together since I returned.

A little background on my hubby – he works at Squaw Valley Ski Resort in Lake Tahoe. That’s where we met four and a half years ago, just two young babies, and probably Shiloh’s favorite place ever. He works long days in the sun doing hard labor. So to say he is exhausted by the time he gets home is a major understatement. But the date was his idea, and I’m learning that as a married couple with a child, you take hubby up on those opportunities. Plus my mother in law happened to be there and willing to watch Bodhi, and you sure as shit don’t pass that up when that opportunity arises.

I was all dolled up from working during the day, but I decided to throw on some heels (okay, okay, kitten heals but whatever) and a cute outfit to make it feel like a real date. Not the kind you go on to get food, but the kind you go on to sauce each other up so you can rip each other’s clothes off later.

We were cute AF, not even going to lie. We even shared a burrito. We held hands. We kissed. We sat on the same side of the booth. These are things we haven’t done in a LONG time. Shiloh and I have been through a lot. Me with my postpartum depression, him with his childhood traumas and anxiety – it’s been a lot. But we’ve always persevered, and I think we’re learning how to communicate each other’s needs better than we ever have. At least since Bodhi was born. Right now I feel like we’re in a really good place.

As a couple with a child it’s easy to stray off the path that you both once walked together. Over the years people change, and growing together as partners can be super scary. You question so many things about yourself and your significant other. So dating your man or woman again can recreate and spark passion and fun that you may have lost.

I mean yeah, when we got home of course Bodhi was still awake, and didn’t go to sleep until 12:30am (horrifying) and Shiloh and I had to table the ripping of the clothes part off until today, but hey, that’s compromise.

Tell me all the fun things you do to create spice in your marriage or relationship! I want to hear what you do to keep things spicy or exciting!

Here’s my outfit I wore last night – I’m literally obsessed with the skirt I got for only $18. Comfiest and cutest chic piece ever. Click here for the skirt, here for a similar shirt, here for the shoes, and here for the headband! And as a friendly reminder, I want to let you know and be fully transparent that if you do purchase through the link I provided I do get a small commission ~$1-$3 (at no extra cost to you, the company pays me). Thanks so much for your support!

Xo

Tori

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